One of the things I realized was that my mistakes, as well as my successes, were my building blocks. – Deborah Kemp
The word affirmation is a powerful word. It means, “emotional support or encouragement”. However, the word affirmation means something very different to me now that I have turned 62 and I am almost 63. I used to think that I had to be affirmed by others. I thought affirmation came from the outside and that somehow the words of others would get inside of my soul. Now I realize that you must affirm yourself from the inside out. It’s like creating a structure or building, it must be built brick by brick. One of the things I began realizing was that my mistakes, as well as my successes, were my building blocks. This insight literally changed my life.
Write the Vision
The way I administer the gift of affirmation today is a lot different than it was 20 years ago. These days I start small, complete a task and then go on to the next task. In Genesis 1, God created the Heavens and the Earth. It was planned out. He had a task for each day and at the end of each day we find that he had completed each task. Sometimes we as women are just all over the place. We go from subject to subject, task to task and then we don’t complete anything! But when God created the heavens and the Earth he did one thing and he did it very well! Even today in 2018, scientists still can’t figure out all the things that He did and how it all came to about. God had a plan that He completed.
We must remember that affirmation is not just a word, it’s an action. It begins when you decide to start by not just saying, “I’m okay,” but by treating yourself better, that’s real affirmation! That means not putting yourself last on the list to be taken care of, or never taking care of your needs. You have to stop beating yourself up at nighttime saying, “I wish I could have, or I wish I would have,” but never got around to it. No longer when you get home and start going through everything that happened during the day and beating yourself up because you didn’t say the right thing, wear the right clothes, or didn’t feel pretty that day.
Instead you get up, whether you feel like it or not, put your clothes on (that you planned out the night before), put your face on, and walk out the door. Even if you’re just going to Walmart, look your best. It means that you stop waiting for that telephone call from a friend that tells you you’re wonderful, or a friend who always agrees with you whether you’re right or not. I think you have to come to the place where you’re sick and tired of failing, you’re sick and tired of not completing anything, and you’re sick and tired of all the excuses that you make after you have 10 projects in front of you and none of them have been finished or even half finished.
Run With It
At some point you have to realize that the word affirm is a verb, an action word, something that’s a seed that grows in you and becomes a part of you. So even when you want to quit and give up and you see no hope in sight, real affirmation will rise up inside of you and say, “not today, I’m not giving up today or tomorrow.” Then you will start seeking the Lord for wisdom on how to do the next step. You might say this all sounds good, but how do you get to that point?
Pray! When you pray, plan, act and then be persistence- you’ve got a plan!
God had a plan before He started.
This is what you must do first, you must declutter your mind because God is a God of order. Secondly, you have to declutter your house. Order produces peace and that’s when you can hear the voice of God and not listen to negative thoughts about yourself, about others or your situation. Thirdly declutter your closet and clothes. In the Book of Proverbs, it says, “to get a hold of yourself.” Fourthly, you need to declutter your paperwork and get it in order. There is peace in order. In peace you can hear the voice of God. Quiet your mind and seek God. Pray, pray, pray!
PASTORS TONY AND DEBORAH KEMP
It will Surely Come
What I know now, that I didn’t know 20 years ago, is that affirmation is not a bunch of words that tell you how wonderful you are or that everything “will be okay”. It’s like the old folks used to say, “everything’s going to be alright.” It will become real because it’s deep down inside, you know that it’s going to be okay. It’s when you start asking for wisdom from God, how to administer the next step of your life. That’s how God brought me through each step every time. It was my affirmation that He would do it again and again. You also realize that your mistakes, your failures, your mess ups, all make you rich with wisdom of what not to do. As long as you don’t stay down, you get up and try again, then you have received your treasure. You no longer need a pat on the back or a pat on the head along with a lollipop to say, “I’m okay,” you finally have grown up and say from the Inside out, “I’m okay and I know I’m going to be okay because I know that God is faithful in my heart, I know this in my mind.”
When we stop waiting for other people to fix us or encourage us and make a plan, that’s getting a hold of yourself, that’s a plan! Nobody owes you that. Plus, you waste too much time waiting on others. Some of us are old as dirt and still waiting for somebody to give us a kind word, or words of encouragement, or somebody to tell us what to do.
I have a plaque in my kitchen that says, “this is your last chance, Bloom!”
So ladies, today is your day to Bloom.