This is Your Life!

Whether it be how they are taken for granted, how their time is wasted, or they simply don’t feel loved or appreciated.  While these are valid points of discussion, the more important question should be:  Why are we allowing others to have such a huge impact on our lives?  Because we teach people how to treat us, we ultimately are to blame if we do not address or correct things that are unacceptable to us.  Even though some circumstances are beyond your control, you are still in charge of your happiness.  Your reaction to situations can go one of two ways:  good or bad. The choice is up to you.  Don’t allow the devil to use you and act negatively or feed into the foolishness and distractions of others.  We must learn to trust God.  He is the only one that will never forsake us.  

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5 ESV)

Stop giving others the power to control YOUR life!  You don’t need the permission or acceptance of others to execute your plans and enjoy the desires of your heart.  Don’t allow fear to keep you stagnant.  Step out on faith.  “I can do all things through him who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13 ESV). It’s hard to understand, but everybody that you think is on your side, is not praying for your success.  People will hang out and wallow in misery with you, but when you come into your blessing they may distance themselves and resent you.  It is at this time you must make a crucial decision.  To stay around and be mistreated or thank them for all they’ve done and make a graceful exit.  Again, the choice is yours.

We will evolve many times throughout life’s journey.  Thank God we are not the same person today that we were yesterday.  We live and learn at different paces.  This means making the hard decision to sometimes distance ourselves from those not sharing our vision.  By interacting with like-minded individuals, we stay positive and focused.  This doesn’t mean you can’t associate with others of different future goals, but be mindful that people are placed in our lives for a season or a specific reason.  It’s up to you to keep them in their perspective places.  Never allow someone else to keep you from succeeding.  Unfortunately time is not on our side.  The clock keeps ticking and every wasted or regretted moment is one you can never get back.

From the time God created you, He wanted nothing but the best for you, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5 ESV).  While we all must face trials and tribulations, know that God is right there with you.  You won’t unblock your next blessing until God knows the first one was well received and appreciated. 

Remain humble and show appreciation for all that you have.  Hold on to your faith in the good as well as the bad times. Give praise when you are not given that next promotion, thank God when the house you wanted went to someone else, and even shout hallelujah when the bank denied your loan.  Know that those things were not for you at that particular time. 

Oh, but what joy you should find in knowing that God is a good God and he has something much better in store for you.  Be patient and keep the faith.  Lastly, it’s not selfish to want what is best for you and yours.  Never feel guilty for allowing yourself to be happy.  You deserve it just as much as anyone else does.  Don’t allow your past to dictate your future.  Be bold in your requests to God and be open to receiving the blessing. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.  This is your life:  own it.  Until next time I wish you continued blessings.



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Trellis Cooper

Trellis M. Cooper is a creative writer who enjoys extending spiritual words of comfort via cards and personalized poems. It is through her personal ministry, Touch A Heart, that she offers encouragement and inspiration to those in need. A current English major, she loves to read, write, cook, travel and spend quality time with her family. As an aspiring author, she is busy working on her first book. Seeing a need to extend proper etiquette tips to others, Trellis enjoys writing for Shulamite Women’s Online Magazine. It has proven to be a godsend as she continues to grow spiritually. She and her husband, Bud, have been married for 25 years and are the proud parents of: Corey, Endia, and Destinee. Trellis and her husband are passionate about maintaining old-fashioned family values in today’s enticing world. Trellis M. Cooper’s contribution to Social Graces is a spiritual mentoring platform, where she can offer fresh, creative solutions that will assist her readers with everyday etiquette challenges.

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