During times of weariness we can fall into darkness; creating a solemn state of mind. One persons’ definition of loneliness varies from another’s and the magnitude of such loneliness is attributed to several instances. The loss of a life, the end of a relationship, a loved one moving far away and maybe even as simple as not being able to connect with the people around you. “Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. –Isaiah 40:28-31” Keep in mind that the loneliness ends. Even after the most horrific storms, comes a day full of so much beauty, it is hard to belief tragedy ever happened.
Do you often feel that happiness and joy are one in the same thing? We have become accustomed to putting so much faith and hope into a person, a place, or things; when it comes to what exactly determines happiness. When I think of loneliness, I also think of being void of joy. Pure joy means you find delight in the simplest of things. I find utter joy when all around me is peaceful. I am happiest when I have not a care or burden. When my loved ones are safe or when I am visiting with family and friends; I am content. Helping someone in need or providing words of wisdom, kindness and hope are small things to me yet they are abundant with delight for others. Joy warms the spirit within and radiates through us. “But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace. –Psalms 37:11” The poor, the meek, and the innocent are those who emulate joy in all of its simplicity.
There is no greater feeling of emptiness and being truly alone when someone abandons us. We take on the guilt, resentment and confusion as if we did something wrong. The abandonment merely means it was their time to move on. I cannot recall who shared the adage; a reason, a season, or a lifetime, with me but it is one of my favorites and it is applied quite often. I am thankful for meeting people because it was purposeful. Life lessons were learned. Memories were made to be cherished. It takes years to create meaningful relationships. Valuable relationships have peak and off-peak times of happiness, laughter, peace and good times. Knowing your own value as well as knowing how invaluable those relationships are to you, should be a distinct indication of how much joy and happiness you do have. Loneliness is a state of mind and the feeling of being void of joy.
Find your joy! Let a smile cross your lips for no reason at all. Write a letter to a dear friend. Call someone and chat like old schoolmates. Pray a prayer of thanksgiving and seek comfort in the only companion you will ever need. The Father, son and Holy Spirit is always with you. “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.- Deuteronomy 31:6”