The Gift of Friendship

The gift of friendship is indeed a blessing from God, as true friends are hard to find.  You must nurture your friendships, just as you would any other relationship. In order to build a lasting friendship, it is imperative to trust each other.  You should love unconditionally and always defend your friends honor.  If your loyalty is ever questioned, it will surely place your friendship in jeopardy.  

If you love this person and value your friendship you should:

  • Keep your promises.  Your word is your bond.
  • Never gossip or talk about them behind their back.  
  • Keep their secrets!  Never betray their trust and confidence in you.
  • Be a great listener.  Sometimes they may need to unload a burden.
  • Show genuine interest in their life.  Don’t make it all about you.
  • Respect each other’s space, time, and privacy.
  • Have fun.  Relax and enjoy each other’s company,

While the number of friends one may have is limitless, quality counts more than quantity.  Not everyone you consider a friend will be there through both the good and the bad times.  Choose your friends wisely.

As with any relationship, you and your friend will not always be in total agreement about everything.  It is very important to handle disagreements with maturity.  Never say or do anything that you will regret..  Once spoken, words can never be taken back. Saying something mean and hurtful in anger will have a negative effect on your friendship.  After all, it’s your reaction to situations that shows your integrity.

If your friendship is solid, you will get through rough times.  True friendship means being there for each other, even when it’s not convenient!  When wrong, be willing to apologize as well as accept the apology of your friend.  It is so sad to see longtime friendships end over the most trivial matters.

Cultivate your friendships by keeping in touch.  There may be periods of time where you don’t actually see each other, but you can still enjoy contact via phone calls, text messages, social media, etc.

Parting ways with a dear friend can be as devastating as getting a divorce.  However, when things are no longer working out, it is necessary (even beneficial at times) to let go.  Whether you’ve grown apart, faced betrayal, or found your friends behavior unforgivable; breaking up is hard to do  Before you make a hasty decision, re-evaluate the situation.  Imagine how your life will be without that person in it.  Are you better off without them?  If this is the case, bow out gracefully. Even though this may be the end of the friendship, there is no need to end things on a sour note.  Afterwards, still uphold the sanctity of that person.  Do not speak ill of them or berate their character to others.  You must also realize that ending this relationship may have a direct impact on your other friendships.  If you have mutual friends, they may feel the need to take sides.  It’s hard for some people to maintain a friendship with two people who are no longer friends with each other.  Pray about it and make the decision that is best for you.  

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:5).

True friendship will stand the test of time.  Remain faithful and love each other unconditionally.  Solid friendships are precious, and can add value to your life..  Be kind and patient with each other.  Say “I love you” often, and show it with the things you do.  Until next time, I wish you and your friends continued blessings.

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Trellis Cooper

Trellis M. Cooper is a creative writer who enjoys extending spiritual words of comfort via cards and personalized poems. It is through her personal ministry, Touch A Heart, that she offers encouragement and inspiration to those in need. A current English major, she loves to read, write, cook, travel and spend quality time with her family. As an aspiring author, she is busy working on her first book. Seeing a need to extend proper etiquette tips to others, Trellis enjoys writing for Shulamite Women’s Online Magazine. It has proven to be a godsend as she continues to grow spiritually. She and her husband, Bud, have been married for 25 years and are the proud parents of: Corey, Endia, and Destinee. Trellis and her husband are passionate about maintaining old-fashioned family values in today’s enticing world. Trellis M. Cooper’s contribution to Social Graces is a spiritual mentoring platform, where she can offer fresh, creative solutions that will assist her readers with everyday etiquette challenges.

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